I know that I have the power to respond to whatever enters my life and experience these as positive or negative but what if my choice is, in effect, burying my head in the sand (metaphorically speaking)? Am I avoiding what is real or rewriting the made-up version?
I don't trust, this has already been established. I don't trust you. In fact, I can count on my hands those people in whom I have confidently placed my trust. I bet that most people believe they are on this list but the truth is that they aren't. Just because I give you some power to hurt me doesn't mean that I don't believe you won't. On the contrary, I'm basically waiting for you to destroy me. I hope you won't but I don't really believe that it won't happen...someday.
I read into conversations, choices and statements. I believe that people are most truthful when they don't believe anyone is looking closely at what they say or do. An off-hand remark is usually more accurate than some thing you spend time rehearsing in your mind.
I do believe that people generally want to do the right thing, say the right thing, be the right thing. I don't think you want to destroy me or our relationship but I do think you may with the unconscious choices you make which ultimately affect us.
So, do I brace myself or not? Do I keep stepping into the situation fully, hoping that you do too? One of my greatest fears is to find myself in a relationship with someone who never really got into it, who tested the water rather than jumped in feet first. Today, I feel like you have been splashing around in the pool and, while it looks like you're making moves to get in, you really aren't planning on it...ever.
Sometimes I just don't know what to do.