A letter to someone who has hurt me recently -
I don't believe that people hurt me, not the way this challenge means. Yes, I can be physically assaulted but my feelings are not "hurt" by others. My response to other people leads to hurt feelings. Others cannot harm my feelings. Have I responded in such a way that led to hurt feelings in the last weeks? Definitely but I will not place blame on others for that response. So, how about this...
My dearest friend,
You cannot hurt me. I will not allow it and it's not your nature. Oh you may want to lash out and target me for whatever reason but how you are to me or what you say to me or others about me cannot really hurt me. My response to your actions, your words, even your thoughts are my responses and I have stewardship over them, not you.
I have not intentionally hurt you but if your feelings hurt because of my actions, I am sorry for it. I wish that you would understand and forgive whatever you believe of me. I did not lie to you or exclude you or think any less of you. I did not mean to offend, step over whatever line, led to you believing that I was your enemy, even for a short time.
Yes, my feelings have suffered but not because of you even though your intention may have been otherwise. My feelings suffered because I had expectations about my life that were not met by others, by me, by life, by you, and those disappointments injured my heart. I didn't manage my expectations and I suffered.
I am not angry. That is a waste of energy and emotion. I feel disappointment. I feel loss. I feel threatened. I feel alone and lonely. These are my feelings and you did not cause them. I chose them and it's time for me to choose others.
Thank you for the opportunity to learn and grow and be the person I always wanted to be, to be me.
Always,
Bonnie
FINE PRINT: This "letter" isn't intended for one person so please don't read it and think "She is writing to me" because I'm probably not. If it really bothers you, just ask me. I will tell you what parts are for you, if any.
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